{"id":3479,"date":"2025-10-04T15:01:07","date_gmt":"2025-10-04T08:01:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kiddimath.edu.vn\/dieu-chinh-cam-xuc\/"},"modified":"2025-10-09T16:00:42","modified_gmt":"2025-10-09T09:00:42","slug":"dieu-chinh-cam-xuc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kiddimath.edu.vn\/en\/dieu-chinh-cam-xuc\/","title":{"rendered":"Managing Emotions"},"content":{"rendered":"

When Your Child Has an Emotional Outburst \u2013 How Not to \u201cBurst\u201d Along?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

When a child has an emotional outburst, parents are the calm anchor that helps them learn how to settle down.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Imagine your child\u2019s emotions as a fire: the harder you blow, the bigger it flares up. But if parents stay calm, that is the perfect chance to teach children how to manage their own emotional fire.<\/p>\n

So, adults can gently acknowledge the child\u2019s feelings:<\/p>\n

\u201cI see you\u2019re very angry. Do you want to tell me what happened?\u201d<\/p>\n

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Why should parents regulate their emotions first?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

According to Daniel Goleman (2005), one of the core abilities of EI (emotional intelligence) is self-regulation. When parents can remain calm, they not only set an example but also create a safe environment for the child to learn how to manage their own emotions, gradually building the belief: \u201cMy feelings are allowed.\u201d<\/p>\n

If parents often get angry when a child cries or resists, the child may misunderstand: \u201cEmotions are dangerous\u201d<\/em> or \u201cShowing my emotions will push mom and dad away.\u201d<\/em> This can make them withdraw, or conversely, explode even more intensely to seek attention.<\/p>\n

A child who experiences calmness, listening, and understanding from their parents will learn to respect their own emotions and also know how to respect the feelings of others.<\/p>\n

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How not to \u201cburst\u201d along with your child?<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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  1. \n

    Pause \u2013 Breathe \u2013 Think<\/strong><\/h4>\n

    When you see your child crying or angry, take a few deep, slow breaths. This pause helps you avoid being swept up in their emotions.<\/li>\n

  2. \n

    Put yourself in your child\u2019s shoes<\/strong><\/h4>\n

    Ask yourself: \u201cWhat does my child really need?\u201d<\/em> Maybe it\u2019s understanding, a break, or just a hug.<\/li>\n

  3. \n

    Keep your voice gentle<\/strong><\/h4>\n

    Tone and volume act as an \u201cemotional mirror\u201d for your child. The calmer your voice, the easier it is for your child to settle down.<\/p>\n

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  4. \n

    Ask questions and listen<\/strong><\/h4>\n

    \u201cHow are you feeling right now?\u201d instead of \u201cWhy are you crying again?\u201d Open-ended questions help children express their true feelings.<\/li>\n

  5. \n

    Find solutions together<\/strong><\/h4>\n

    When emotions calm down, suggest: \u201cWhat would help you feel better?\u201d This teaches children to solve problems instead of just reacting.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Parents are the \u201ckeepers of the flame\u201d in the family<\/strong><\/h3>\n

    Regulating emotions doesn\u2019t mean suppressing them\u2014it means knowing how to \u201ckeep the flame just bright enough\u201d to light the way for your child. When parents remain calm, children not only feel safe but also learn a precious lesson: Emotions can be heard and transformed, instead of burning everything down.<\/p>\n

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    References<\/strong><\/h3>\n

    Goleman, D. (2005). Emotional intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ<\/em>. Bantam.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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